Our Exposures become our Expereinces

     

        When talking about experiences, I would like to recall my experience  about the exposure one gets, either from their own siblings, family members , friends , neighbors or people whom they meet.My life experiences are mostly from childhood in  my village with my neighbors kids and neighborhood friends. I believe at certain age everyone need to be given choice to decide or to determine their future. Something I found weird  growing as a an adolescent and when I turned into an adult at 21, I thought I  have my rights to decide my future and to pursue my interest.  


        If a father talks to his child, he will make sure his child choose what is best with his blessings, but in older siblings case especially ladies seems to be domineering even though their educational qualification  do not seems  to meet the younger siblings level. Once I was faced in that difficult situation and I was not given a choice by the older siblings especially the older lady who was controlling the whole family.


   

   What I had learnt whether the particular girl agrees or not but need to obey the older siblings choice without choice given. Until the older sibling threatened the younger sister that she will commit suicide and cant face her mother inlaw if her younger sister do not follow her wishes. This is what has been going on in many Hindu families for generations. Most the older sisters want is that the younger sister must get married off to some one far away and leave the family , so she can get most of the brothers attention and care. Due to certain unemphatic sisters interference in many younger sisters life and future, many live a life for  name sake and not the life they wished or the future that they hoped.


        There are special girls and gifted children being neglected by their own siblings due to their selfishness after married. What I have learnt growing up as a child, the home of a child seems peaceful as long all the siblings are single and in the presence of their parents. In the absence of the parents,the younger siblings   future is not predictable. Many talented youths  suppose to be successful in education and in life much earlier, but due to the older siblings control they  suffer life long and till their late years in life , due to life fixed by the adults and controlled by them, Those who left their family and live on their own seems far more successful than by those who have been controlled by their siblings.